Intimacy

we don't want to be alone. at least we want other people to understand us. and they don't. the idea that someone else can really understand us is an illusion--as something that we maintain.

but there are moments of intimacy. there are moments when people absolutely meet. but you can't plan them; you can't strategize for them; you can't prepare for them; and you can't hold on to them. and generally speaking, those moments of intimacy only happen when people are willing to be completely alone.

as long as we are looking at others as potential escape routes for our own loneliness, intimacy is not possible.


Reggie Ray